I met Cattle Baron for a drink -- wanted to start off with something defined and short in case it wasn't good -- but we progressed to dinner. He talked a lot about himself at first, not asking me many questions, but when we got to dinner, I got a chance to share as well. He insisted on paying, saying that's how he was raised and he would be offended if I paid. I did get the door for myself on the way out, and he mentioned he would have gotten it for me if I had given him a chance. I laughed and said I was NY-ified and used to being independent.
It was a good first date. CB seems like a really nice, sweet guy, and when he smiles, it reminds me of someone -- I can't quite put my finger on who yet. He has a definite Southern drawl and talked about how he's always lived in small towns. I countered that I've always lived in cities, and wouldn't have it any other way.
He was very polite and intelligent. The conversation was easy. But there weren't really any sparks. I enjoyed his company and agreed to see him again. But driving "home" (to my sister's where I'm staying until my apt is ready), I have to admit that I don't think the sparks are something that comes with time. I think you either have chemistry, or you don't.
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you posted: "I don't think the sparks are something that comes with time. I think you either have chemistry, or you don't" .. I disagree with you on this,Em.Love grows from knowing someone more each time you meet and you recognise LOVE itself when you never want to say goodbye..that's my humble opinion anyway. :) CB sounds 'nice' and do you know his Starsign yet? xx
A.Norma.
Hey Em, I have a good feeling about this date.
I agree with Norma that instant chemistry is plain bookish. For me, Love has always grown with time. It is hard for me to fall for someone immediately. I have seen that instant flash & burn really does not last... but may be I am too conventional in thinking.
Yeah, CB sounds nice and sweet and I would like to see how it shapes.
I am from a small town myself and staying in New Delhi, I have seen that men here just do not want to commit. They are always on the lookout of a better one. That I believe is big city mentality :)
And yes, I have a feeling we have many things in common and do not worry about divorce.... its apart of life... and God's will..
Glad you had a pleasant time. Sparks are overrated. Niceness underrated. This one may be like a good sauce - the flavor comes from a long simmer. How far out of Austin does this guy live and are cattle his livelihood or just a hobby?
And may you never lose your NYification (other than that Mets visor)!
Aunty Norma: Yes, he is nice. Bday is Dec. 20.
Small Town Girl: Maybe so. I'm going to see him again, so we'll see what happens.
jman: Cattle are just a hobby of sorts, he has a full-time job, too. Doesn't live too far out -- maybe 45 min. And there are some things I learned in NY that I DON'T want to get rid of, but I'm not super attached to the Mets hat. :-)
hmmm, Capricorn! hey,Emily, hang on to this one if you can for a while..they take some drawing out but are worth the time and effort(and going by personal experience) they do take some drawing out :) in a 'nice' way though..for example,Uncle Noel is Capricorn :) 'they' make good Husbands,Fathers,and are Homelovers..are down to earth and call a 'spade a spade' sound ok? good. :)
Aunty Norma.xx
Ooops,Sorry,Emily..I made a booby..your Friend is Saggitarius NOT Capricorn..(near enough mind you) :) xx
A.Norma.
Hmm. Beware the instant fireworks. I'm coming to the conclusion that, sometimes, the slow burners have the most potential.
"I don't think the sparks are something that comes with time. I think you either have chemistry, or you don't"
Maybe that's why you are still single... Have you thought about that?
Chemistry comes with time, you can't judge somebody based on a first date only. You are not really yourself on the first few dates.
Blonde: I know what you're saying, but I think there needs to be some physical attraction.
Anonymous: I am still single because of my choices. I could be married now, but I don't want to settle for something that's not right for me.
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